What’s In My Grad School Backpack…

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School is right around the corner… I’m so excited because this is my first official semester in my grad school program!

I did take a couple classes online this summer, but now that fall is here I’ll actually be going to class! (I love back-to-school if you couldn’t tell)

Here is what I keep in my grad school backpack! What’s in yours?!


Lighten Up Large Backpack in Pink Swirls – Vera Bradley (I have had this bag for 4 years now and it still looks brand new! It was such a great investment.)


Weekly planner – Barnes & Nobles

2 inch binder – Target

5 subject dividersTarget (inside the binder)

Notebook – Target

12 pack of Pilot G-2 07 pensTarget

1 mini ruler – Target

Pen bagTarget 

2 mechanical pencilsTaget (came w/ multipack)

1 highlighter Target (came w/ multipack)

1 Laptop w/ Charger  Best Buy

Emergency pouch Thirty One (Inside: small hairbrush, nail clippers, gum, small lotion, hand sanitizer, Tylenol packs, & feminine products)

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Dear Younger Me, 

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Looking back, here is what I wish I could have told you…

Not everyone is going to like you. 

I read a quote once that said “you could be the sweetest peach in the world, and there is still going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches”. That is so relevant. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. You don’t need to go out of your way for people who don’t do the same for you. That may seem harsh, but really- don’t waste your time. Keep your circle small because quality is always better than quantity.

Everybody loves a little mystery.

If you have feelings, thoughts, or secrets that you feel need to be shared… write them down in a journal at home, pray about it, or even vent to your mom. But ultimately, keep your personal life private. Trust is something people need to earn, you can’t just give it away.

Get offline and start living.

Nobody’s life is as perfect as they make it seem on social media. Not everything requires your comment. Some moments are better left undocumented. Save yourself from the drama and negativity that is the media today. Once it’s all gone you will feel so much more like yourself. It will become clear who is apart of your real life when you get offline and start living.

Embrace who you truly are.

In a few years, your relationship with God will blossom- and you will feel closer to him than ever before. You will begin to stand firm in your beliefs and opinions. You will embrace a minimalistic lifestyle. You will realize you don’t need to follow trends. You will walk away from people who no longer serve a purpose in your life, and nurture the remaining relationships with everything inside of you.

You are so uniquely you, and you have hardly begun to let that you shine. So stop comparing yourself to others. You are special, and when you truly find yourself… you will think so too.

30 before 30…

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Below, I have compiled a list of 30 things I would like to experience before I turn 30. I am so excited to share my adventures with you and cross things off this list throughout the years!
  1. Study abroad in Costa Rica
  2. Earn my masters degree
  3. Get a big girl job
  4. See Miley on tour again
  5. Delete my facebook
  6. Get engaged
  7. Buy a house
  8. Get married
  9. Go back to California
  10. Honeymoon in Hawaii
  11. Scuba dive
  12. Swim with dolphins
  13. Weekend getaway with my mom
  14. Shark cage
  15. Cubs game at Wrigley Field
  16. Start a garden
  17. Visit the Grand Canyon
  18. Adopt a kitten
  19. Go to the Mall of America
  20. Vacation in Ireland
  21. Participate in a marathon
  22. Visit Las Vegas
  23. Camp on the beach
  24. Go to Alaska
  25. Voice a Disney princess *dreaming but still*
  26. Stand on the 4 corners
  27. Stay in a treehouse hotel
  28. Continue to grow in my faith
  29. Keep blogging
  30. Have children

Why I Ask My Significant Other For Permission…

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When people read this title they are probably going to think right off the bat that I am some door mat, or that I am dating a very controlling person… and that could not be farther from the truth.

The truth is that I am with the most incredible, laid back, loving man… and we are in this together. So here is why I ask for permission, and why I willingly choose to do so!

Asking permission is respectful.

My boyfriend and I are a team — 5 years strong. We are best friends and soul mates. I ask him for permission because I respect him, I respect his feelings, and I respect his opinion. For example, maybe I forgot we had plans… asking permission will never lead to conflict the way forgetting about plans will. I ask because I respect him, and he does the same for me.

Asking permission keeps your significant other in the loop.

Like I said, my boyfriend is my best friend. I want him to know where I am, what I am doing, and who I am with. I know that if I keep him in the loop it will make him feel better, and I’ll feel more secure knowing that he knows exactly what is going on if I need him.

Asking permission shows that you trust one another.

I know that my boyfriend cares about me more than anyone else on this earth. He is such a relaxed man, so I know that if he says he is not comfortable with me going somewhere or doing something — then he must have a valid reason. Of course he wants me to have a good time, but his main priority is keeping me safe. And I trust him to do that, even when I can’t see it.

Asking permission is a form of biblical submission.

Biblical submission has this reputation for an individual being a servant in their relationship… but the way I was taught about submission, through reading God’s word, is much different. It is about respect, putting your significant other first, and doing everything you can to show them how much you love them for as long as you live. God wants submission to be a two way street !

 

I hope that everyone is able to find what works for them in their own relationships & continue to grow together as couples. XOXO

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A List Of Things That Make Me Happy…

(In no particular order)

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  1. Writing my blogs
  2. Freshly painted nails
  3. Pool days
  4. Cold Stone’s Cake Batter ice cream
  5. Crisp autumn weather
  6. My boyfriend
  7. Binge watching Netflix
  8. Secluded beaches at sunset
  9. Polaroid pictures
  10. Cats (especially mine)
  11. Hangin’ with my gal pals
  12. Crusin’ with music up and windows down
  13. Pay day
  14. Listening to & watching thunderstorms
  15. Pinterest
  16. Cuddling
  17. Sitting outside on a beautiful day
  18. Disney everything (especially princesses)
  19. Alone time
  20. Funny posts on the internet
  21. A great nights sleep
  22. Quality time with my mom
  23. Going to the movies
  24. Smooth gel pens
  25. My family farm
  26. Christmas time
  27. Saving money
  28. Fireplaces
  29. Worshiping God
  30. Genuine laughter
  31. The feeling after a workout
  32. Flannel pajamas in the winter
  33. Making lists
  34. Trips to Kentucky
  35. YouTube videos
  36. Holiday decorations
  37. iPhones
  38. Weekends/long breaks
  39. Fresh sheets
  40. Scrapbooking
  41. Home cooked meals
  42. A sky full of stars
  43. Target
  44. Romance
  45. Apple Music
  46. Getting good grades
  47. Decluttering
  48. Fall scented candles
  49. Small towns
  50. Followers/comments/likes on my blog — thank you for all your love & support! 💕

10 Things All TRUE Miley Fans Can Relate To…

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1. You cant stand the bandwagon fans!

You are so tired of hearing that the “real” Miley is back… Yes, you also agree that Miley is at such a great place in her life right now. Her music is bomb, she looks beautiful in her Malibu video, and you’re pumped for what she’s going to bring to the table next. But Miley has always been successful and had a wonderful heart. She has been Miley from the beginning- she never left. She was just changing and evolving like everyone else does in life.

2. You totally miss the Miley and Mandy show.

If you’re a real fan you never missed a single video that was uploaded. Seriously, this YouTube duo was so adorable and silly… their laughs and dance moves will always hold a special place in our hearts.

3. You really don’t know what the big deal about the 2009 KCAs was.

Go back and watch it on YouTube… it was not as dramatic as everyone on the internet made it seem. (Not compared to the 2013 VMAs at least… Lol)

4. Crying at the last Hannah Montana episode was totally acceptable.

4 tv seasons, 1 movie, 4 albums, 1 tour, and countless tv guest appearances later…. an empire ended… we just needed some time to grieve, okay? (I was a mess)

5. You wouldn’t even think about missing out on her most iconic tours.

You already have both the Hannah Montana Meets Miley Cryus & Bangerz tour under your belt… And you know she’ll be touring in 2018- so you can bet your bottom dollar that you will see her then too!

6. Your first break up was also Miley and Nick.

Nick Jonas, you not only shattered Miley’s heart… but you broke ours too. Luckily we’ve all moved on from the whole ordeal. But for the record- “7 Things” is always going to take us back to that young love. #NileyForever …Just kidding… we are totally gushing over Miley and Liam!

7. When Noah started singing you felt like a proud big sis, too.

Okay, but seriously… it feels like yesterday she was guest starring on episodes of Hannah Montana. Now Noah is all grown up- so professional and fashionable. So many feels.

8. You have written Miley a fan letter.

Are you even a true fan if you did not pick up a pen and paper, pour your heart out, sign, seal, and send that letter all the way to a P.O. box in LA for absolutely nothing? Of course she isn’t going to write back… but hey, can you blame 11 year old me for trying?

9. You could win a game of Miley trivia.

You know her birthday, can name all of her siblings, how many pets she has, every detail of all her tv work,what her real name is, her past boy drama, etc… reading her book, magazine articles, and watching all of her interviews has prepared you for this.

10. You wish Miley nothing but the best.

You basically feel like she is your long distance friend (it’s not weird ok?). You’ve been with her since the audition tapes for Hannah Montana, and you’ve stayed right by her side ever since then. You celebrate her accomplishments and cheer her on despite what the haters say. You’re a TRUE Smiler forever.

Let’s Talk Politics…

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I’m just going to be very blunt and lay it all out on the table in this blog… fasten your seat belts!

I belong to the [none of your business] party.

In fact I voted for [none of your business] in my first presidential election last year.

When it comes to abortion, I am definitely [none of your business].

Illegal immigration is something I feel very strongly about, and it’s [none of your business].

And honestly, I think [none of you business] about the LGBTQ+ community.

I feel [none of your business] about the current president and everyone who works for him.

I think safe spaces on college campuses are [none of your business].

I believe [none of your business] about American’s rights to bear arms.

When it comes to marijuana, I feel [none of your business].

All in all I am certainly more [none of your business], and I am sure you are probably [none of my business].

I hope you enjoyed hearing my two cents! If you feel the same way I do then feel free to share my post! 😉

 

This blog is not meant to be rude, totally sarcastic- but not rude. The truth of the matter is that my business is my business. Don’t get me wrong, I’m always open to a civil dialogue about anything. But I also understand that what I say will not sway you, and what you say will not sway me. These are my opinions and beliefs. I don’t post about it all over social media, try to shove it down people’s throat, or criticize others for what they think. And let me tell you… it has saved me a lot of unnecessary drama!

A wise woman named Kasey Musgrave once said: mind your own biscuits & life will be gravy.

Toxic Relationships…

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Whether it be romantic, friendly, or even work based relationships… we have all been in a situation where someone in our lives is dragging us down, and bringing along a dark cloud of negativity with them. If you or someone you know is feeling overwhelmed by a toxic person, then this blog is definitely for you!

There are a few options that can help you reconcile with this person, or just leave the relationship completely.

The first thing you might consider doing is having an open conversation with the toxic person in your life. Good communication is key, and there is a chance they don’t even realize what they are doing. Write down what you want to say beforehand, and make sure you have solid examples. Be direct and honest.

The next thing you can do is give yourself some space. Being alone is healthy and it can give you time to think about what you need in order to feel peace again. Try not to communicate with this person while you are giving yourself space, that would defeat the purpose of your alone time.

Another tip is to fight the urge to argue. This person already has enough issues, especially if they are bringing you down. Do not stoop to their level or feed the fire. It is best to walk away from confrontational situations. Perhaps the toxic person will stop being argumentative once they realize they have no one argue with.

My final piece of advice is to let go of the relationship and pray about it. You are only 50% of a relationship. Understand that you deserve more. Your mental, physical, and emotional health are at stake and sometimes you need to put yourself first. You are not selfish for wanting more.

Always be kind, but know when enough is enough.

“There is no virtue in tolerating toxic behavior.” -Dr. Phil 

Your Legacy…

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Life goes by in the blink of an eye… we are not promised tomorrow. Be thankful for every breath you take, and every second you get spend with the people that you love.

Do not waste any time. Be kind, helpful, and generous. If you love someone, tell them. Scream it from the rooftops or quietly pray for them. Show that love each and every day in as many ways as you possibly can.

You have the power to make your life anything you want it to be. Forgive others and forgive yourself. Remove toxic people from your life. Travel, face your fears, or try something new.

When we come to the end of our lives it won’t matter what we own or how much money we have made. In the end what will truly matter is the lives around us that we have touched, and those that have touched our own.

Everyone has a legacy to leave behind. Your legacy could be what you did, what you said, who you loved… or all of the above.

Be mindful as you go through life, because you are writing your legacy every single day.

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This blog is dedicated to Wendi Kirsch. She was a wonderful woman who impacted the lives of many alongside her husband, Tom. She left an incredible legacy behind. My thoughts and prayers are with the family as they go through this difficult time.

Simplifying My Digital World…

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This year I began my journey with minimalism. Not only did that include simplifying my material possessions, but also the non-material things in my life like relationships, what I’m watching/listening to, and you guessed it… SOCIAL MEDIA!!!

The very first thing I did was delete my twitter.

Why did I do that? Because who really cares what I am doing or what I have to say 24/7… and if you do really care (for whatever reason) you can just ask me about it when we talk in real life.

Next I deleted my Instagram.

I did this because I realized my self worth is greater than the number of likes I got on a selfie. My relationship should not be questioned if I am not a “woman crush Wednesday”, or if my significant other is not my “man crush Monday”. I should not feel like a lesser person due to my followers to following ratio. It is not real, and I did not enjoy how “show-boaty” Instagram became.

Then I deleted my Snapchat.

I got rid of my Snapchat because I didn’t use it that much. It was just digital clutter to me. The only person I ever really snapped was my boyfriend, and I already text him all day long anyways.

The last social media I deleted was Facebook.

Honestly, this was the hardest social media for me to delete because it was the last platform I had to keep in touch with a lot of family and close friends.  I only had around 80 friends… but I decided to delete Facebook when I realized that if someone was truly apart of my life, they would share their important news with me personally.

Finally, I decluttered my ENTIRE iPhone.

I went from a phone full of apps and connections to a minimal and organized digital space. The result?… 22 contacts and 25 apps remaining. I wanted to start living intentionally so I set my phone up to where I do not feel tempted to stare at it all day. Here’s a closer look into my decluttered digital set up:

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I cannot honestly say that I wasn’t hesitant to get rid of my social media…

I mean, come on. What if I missed out on something important? What if I had something I needed to share with everyone?

News flash: I didn’t. And another thing… no one noticed I was gone.

It’s a weird feeling. When you’re online everyone makes you feel special, like you’re part of the group. They take the time to reach out to you because you’re right there in their space… because it’s convenient and easy for them.

After a while I began to realize people weren’t curious where I was or what I was doing. No ones lives had stopped in a panic search for me. Birthdays and holidays passed, and less and less people reached out to me.

I know what you’re thinking… this is really sad. She must be really lonely. But it’s not sad, and I’m not alone. Now that all of that digital clutter is gone I feel more fulfilled than ever before. I find my value in God. I cherish my real life relationships- and although they are smaller in number, they are larger in love. I spend more time sitting outside than I do on my phone. I don’t mindlessly scroll while I’m at a restaurant. I don’t go to extreme lengths to get the perfect Instagram picture.

I’m actually living my life… and I wish I had done it sooner.